Both

Intention:

Duality refers to the two-sided nature of something. It points out the inherent complexity in many phenomena. It is easier to conceive seemingly opposite concepts and qualities as mutually exclusive or contradictory, to assume an ‘either/or’ position, and to choose one or the other. However, recognizing dualities offers a broader, deeper, and perhaps wiser perspective. When we assume an inclusive position, we do not have to choose one side over the other. We have more to learn, more to contemplate, more to work with.

Instruction:

Below are pairs of words related to concepts commonly interpreted as opposite or mutually exclusive. Reflect on each pair from a ‘both/and’ perspective, appreciating the duality. Write down your ideas and associations.

Being/Doing                         Contemplation/Action

Us/Them                              Here/There

Now/Then                            Private/Public

Beginning/End                    Leading/Following

Sound/Silence                      Figure/Background

Micro/Macro                       Trust/Question

Nature/Nurture                   Speed ​​up/Slow down

Wild/Tame                          Work/Play

Win/Lose                             Peace/War

Give/Receive                        Bitter/Sweet

Rich/Poor                            Saint/Sinner

New/Old                               True/False

Correct/Incorrect               Good/Bad

Each day, try to notice when you are assuming an ‘either/or’ stance rather than a ‘both/and’ stance. Notice which one works better each time.

We offer below some questions for reflection.

Inspection:

·       What difficulties did you experience when trying to shift from an ‘either/or’ perspective to one of ‘both/and’ in this exercise? In your daily life?

·       What did you learn or gain from expanding your perspective to a more inclusive one?

·       What are some issues for which you intend to try a ‘both/and’? Why?